Quite frankly I’m tired of hearing about the Glass Ceiling and Pay Equity. If for one moment I had the attention of every North American woman, I would tell them about another ceiling, one that is far more hidden, insidious and dangerous. I will admit that I’m afraid to talk about it. It’s politically incorrect, and I’m petrified of the criticism it will generate. But since I’m now 50, I’ve decided to stop being afraid of the other girls in the playground.
In the past 12 years, I have met dozens of women who want to have another child. But in each case their husbands have said “no” and no it is. It strikes me as bizarre. How could these professional, intelligent and bread-winning women reduce themselves to squirm, beg and cajole when it comes to the heart and soul of their very womanhood? Isn’t having a child every woman’s right?
Why does HE always win?
These women, so incredibly eager to please, so ready to keep the peace at all cost, are suppressing their inner most God given desire. Why?
No doubt they are afraid of trouble if “IT” happens? Or maybe they’re afraid that he’ll stop loving and walk away? Often a good old fashioned case of “I don’t want to rock the boat” is the big stumbling block. But why?
I’ve been observing this modern, phenomena for twelve years. I call her Pathema; the woman who wants more children and is relenquishing her procreative power to the man in her life. Some somen don't even realize the decision was made without them; others are obedient without questioning their husband's so called authority. .
Why is Pathema so afraid to put her foot down just like he has?
I guess men are still calling the shots.
Pathema, your pool soul. I see the pain in your eyes. I can hear the desperation in your voice. Time is running out, and you’ve been double crossed. You stood at the altar; you kept your vows. You accepted this senseless state of suffering, but I can see your desire for more children in your eyes. True love is open to
life… don’t be afraid to put your marriage under fire. God has given you your desire.
Life is good. Procreating is good. Children are good. You do have a choice.
Ironic, isn’t it? Birth control, the hallmark of the women’s movement, the magic potion that was supposed to liberate us, to make us free, has brought a whole new generation of women back onto bondage.
The Baby Ceiling. A modern day tragedy.
